When someone you're dating doesn't reply for hours, you...

Assume they're busy and don't worry

Feel anxious and keep checking your phone

Feel uneasy but tell yourself you don't care

How do you feel about depending on a partner?

Comfortable — interdependence feels healthy

I want to be very close, sometimes more than they do

I want closeness but it scares me

When conflict comes up in a relationship, you tend to...

Worry it threatens the whole relationship

Swing between fixing it and pulling away

Which best describes how you see yourself in relationships?

I'm worthy of love and generally secure

I worry I'm "too much" or not enough

I'm fine on my own; relationships are optional

I want love but doubt it will last

When a partner needs space, you...

Respect it and enjoy your own time

Feel rejected and crave reassurance

Feel hurt but act like it's fine

Opening up about your feelings is...

Something I do fast, hoping to bond

Difficult; I keep a lot private

A push-pull — I share, then regret it

After a breakup, you typically...

Struggle to let go and replay everything

Feel relief and longing at the same time

When a relationship gets really close and serious, you...

Lean in and enjoy the deepening bond

Feel happy but need constant reassurance

Start to feel trapped or restless

Feel both drawn in and the urge to flee

If your partner is visibly upset, your first instinct is to...

Worry that it's somehow your fault

Give them space or fix it practically

Freeze, unsure whether to step in or back off

Trusting a new partner comes...

Fairly easily, until given a reason not to

Quickly, but with a fear of betrayal

Very hard — I expect to be let down

Your ideal amount of togetherness is...

A healthy balance of together and apart

As much time together as possible

Plenty of independence and alone time

Closeness — but with escape hatches

When you imagine long-term commitment, you feel...

Eager, but afraid of losing them

Hesitant about losing my freedom

Torn between deep desire and deep fear

What's Your Attachment Style? How You Connect in Relationships

The way you bond, argue, and pull close (or pull away) often traces back to one of four attachment styles. Answer 12 honest questions to discover yours — and what it means for how you love, trust, and connect in relationships. 💞